Ephesians 6:4

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Even though it is translated as fathers, it does apply to both parents. We exasperate our children when we show an ongoing pattern of treatment that leads to anger.
Some of the ways we do this are:
1. Showing favoritism – each child is unique and we need to treat them as such
2. Neglect them – no time to listen, too busy to be there
3. Never complimenting – need encouragement as much and more than correction

If we exasperate our children we can next move on to training them or instruction them in the ways of God.

The training speaks to discipline even by punishment when needed. They need to know there are lines that when crossed have consequences.

Instruction is confronting them with the truth of God's word in light of their own hearts. It is bringing it before their mind to think about and show them that there is a right and a wrong in this world.

All of this assumes that you have a good relationship with God. If you don't then get right with Him now. Your kids are depending on you to walk with God so that they will know how to walk by imitating you.